Finding “Self” Time

Self time in a hammock

Too often, I see people take care of everyone else around them but forget to take some  time for them self. I fall into this category too at times. Many feel selfish by taking time for them-selves. I guess it is because we try to do for everyone else. But we should not feel guilty for taking time for ourselves. I believe it is necessary to recharge.

Whether you’ve flown recently or not, you have probably seen this on TV: the instructions that the airline employees give the passengers to be prepared for emergencies include taking the oxygen mask and putting their own mask on first before helping others around them. I get it. At first, it sounds like “What?”, but it does make sense. If we cannot take care of ourselves, we will not be able to take care of those around us.

This is exactly what it is like in our ordinary day-to-day lives. We have to carve out some time to refuel ourselves. While we all may refuel differently, these are some things that work for me that I will share. It does not mean that we have to go for a weekend getaway (but hey, that does sound great!). It is the quality and not necessarily the quantity of time that we need.

Take a nice quite bubble bath.

By taking a power nap, we’ll be energized.

Spend 30 minutes (or whatever time you can get), to read a book or listen to music or a podcast.

Go to lunch with friends.

Get a manicure or pedicure if there is money in the budget.

This one is like going to the therapist – get your hair done. Who does not like going to the hair dresser? Well, I have to say, there is one time that I went to get my hair done and it was not relaxing. It was the time I had to shave my hair due to it falling out from chemo. The positive side is that I did save money on haircuts and coloring for a while until my hair grew back! As a result, I’m sporting a new short hair style now.

Spend time reading and studying the bible.

Spend time reading devotions and praying.

Write in your gratitude journal. No matter what is going on in our lives, there is something that we can be thankful for. I’ll admit that sometimes we have to dig a little deeper to find them, but don’t give up until you find it.

Take a walk to get some fresh air and exercise.

Do 15 to 30 minutes of yoga or meditation. This is known to reduce stress.

Watch a favorite show on TV.

Call, text, email, or send a card to a friend.

Get a cup of coffee or tea and just enjoy some relaxation time.

Self time with a cup of coffee

Catch up on your favorite hobby such as scrapbooking, etc. It is so important to keep your own identify and not just be someone’s mom, sister, or wife.

Get the card table out and start a jigsaw puzzle.

Do word puzzles or play cards, either on your computer or the old fashion way.

I have a hammock swing on my porch and I love to spend time there, especially when the weather is good.

We all need to stop, take a deep breath, and do something for ourselves from time to time. Fit in whatever time you can. By refueling, we will become more prepared as we balance and juggle our many hats that we wear.

What are some things that you do for “me” time?

Finding time for yourself




Too often we don't make time for our self. We need to find time to take care of ourselves to be able to refuel to juggle the many hats we wear.